You have to allow yourself to be vulnerable. You have to trust another with the affairs of your heart. You must be trustworthy. When you get it right, you've earned that person's trust and you've gained a true partner to help you hold the reigns through life's journey.
Unfortunately, more people plan for the wedding than they do the marriage journey. And you should know that it is a journey.
You have to be brave to love. Though it's for better or worse and through sickness and good health until death do you part, most people gamble. They hope they've found someone with whom life and love will always be better, healthier, and eternal. That only happens with an everlasting GOD. Few are ever prepared for the challenges of love which can test the strength and foundation of a relationship.
For the Spirit which God has given us is not a spirit of cowardice, but one of power and of love and of sound judgment. 2 Timothy 1:7
Life has chapters. There are many firsts. First marriage. First home purchase. First baby. First job loss. First career change. And those don't include the surprises which we won't mention. They just find you soon enough. Hopefully, yours are sweet.
Through love, prayer and faith, the canoe becomes a boat, then a yacht, and if you stay the course, it's like a cruise ship. Or perhaps it just seems that way as you have learned to ignore many of the things that once rocked your boat.
You've weathered life's storms together. You've leaned on your faith and your God. Your two entwined marital chords are now thicker, wiser and stronger.
Your love has now multiplied. You now have children. You've taught them timeless and valuable life skills and lessons that they too can pass on to their children.
You've learned how to focus on what truly matters and let go of the silly, petty stuff. You've learned how to "get through" to "get to" life's most precious moments.
You've learned that with GOD all things are possible. And finally, you've learned that perfected love casts out all fear.
Yes, you have to be brave to love. But if you've never loved, you've never truly lived.
LeTicia Lee is author of My Love is One: What I Learned from the Messiah about Love, Family, Climate Change, and the Second Coming. MY LOVE is ONE can be ordered at Barnes and Noble and any bookstore worldwide.